There’s plenty of information all over the internet of guys using pickup “tactics” or going out every single night to improve their social skills. That’s definitely one way to do it, and it does work.
However, when I began to think about my dating life (I focused on business first) I wanted to figure out a way to integrate it into my life in such a way that I could still focus hard on making money and building my empire.
That’s the key here. I am focused on something else and girls are just an additive. If you are approaching this with females as the number one goal from the onset, it’s going to be difficult for you to live a “whole” life. At the end of the day, it is all about lifestyle design.
It’s actually funny when you think about it. Both properties equal, would you rather buy a piece of real estate that brings you $10,000 a month in revenue, or $20,000 in revenue? Exactly.
Make it easy for women. Game is cool. It’s definitely necessary. But, you know what else is cool? Being able to fly all over the world and travel to the best cities. What if your lifestyle included bringing a girl on a “date” to Italy? Compare that with the sketchy dude that hit on her at the club using some newfound “game theory” he learned on the internet.
I have mad respect for any guy that conquers his social fears and braves night clubs and bars in search of female companionship. I’ll openly admit that I have gone out before as well with the sole purpose of picking up a chick. You know why that’s okay? Because I’m a dude. Yeah, crazy right?
But, I recognized a better way. I knew I needed to put my head down first and grind on building an online business. Now, that’s out of the way.
Along the way though, I was able to “up my lifestyle.” I don’t have to worry about going out to a nice dinner anymore; I just look at the menu based on what looks good, and then I make my choice. I don’t care about what it costs. Life has become all about the experience for me.
I bring girls along on the journey. They are ecstatic to be a part of it. They want to be a part of it. Do you know how rare it is to find such a high value guy? Guys like us are hard to come by. Seriously. Most people can hardly dress themselves in the morning.
The best part about the way I have set up my life, is that is keeps people accountable. In the past, I have had to cut certain people off. It just had to be done. They weren’t living in accordance with wholesome values. I’m not talking religion here. I’m talking strong character values. Living a life of integrity and congruence with what you think, what you say, and how you act, is mandatory.
Knowing this, you understand that you have to call it out when you see it around you. I personally don’t put up with any excuses in my own life. Because of that, I don’t tolerate it in the lives of my friends either. All of my close friends can attest to my steadfast standards.
The same thing goes for women. They know they better behave. If they act up, they’re gone. And, that’s how it should be. I don’t take any disrespect from my women. Neither should you.
You are the alpha male for a reason. Look around you. The world is ruled by men for a reason. Women want you to lead them, to protect them, to be the base of presence in their sea of flippant and whimsical emotions.
Focusing on developing your lifestyle will allow you to fulfill this role. Don’t do it backwards. Things are only on the “up and up.”
You see, that’s the piece most guys miss. This is a time thing. There’s a reason why I decided to focus on making bank first. It’s because I understand the law of compounding results.
This is a concept that has dictated my entire life. I will break it down for you. Let’s say both you and I were both given an opportunity. Let’s call that opportunity the internet. Well, in this scenario, you fail to take action while I start building a website and learning about all the ins and outs of building an online operating and business. A year goes by, and I keep it up.
Well, at this point you see that I have started to have success. You didn’t see the sleepless nights and fight the same doubts and mental battles. Nonetheless, you jump in. This is where you just lost to me, big time.
Since you are just starting out, it is going to take you 10 hours just to send one website visitor. In that same time, I will have sent millions. You will never be able to catch up to me.
So do yourself a favor. Focus on developing your lifestyle for now. You will only get better looking, richer, and more grounded. Once you have developed that lifestyle, you will have all of the power and summon girls to your desires. And well, you’re an alpha male and that’s how it should be.