You are a man. Building stuff is the core of who you are. Throughout all of history, men have been the conquerors and the dominators of the world. Creating and giving something back into the world runs in our blood and it defines a large aspect of why we run the planet. When you fail to recognize this and fail to respect this law, you fail to open up your creative instinct and therefore miss out on probably the most beautiful thing life has to offer, which is pouring your soul into a lasting impression that makes a true impact on the world around you.
You need goals. You need ambitions. You need to constantly be working to improve upon your vision. If you don’t know what your long-term goals are, that’s okay. But you can’t just sit around and wait for them to pop into your head either. It doesn’t work like that. You need to go out there and start chasing what you think your passions might be. You will probably be off the first time, but you will be able to change course as you rapidly charge forward. You can’t ride a bicycle sitting still. You can’t traverse the path of figuring out your long-term life strategy sitting still either.
Sitting idle is probably the worst thing you could possibly do. Looking around, it makes sense why so many guys are depressed and feel like they have nothing. If you are in the same scenario, ask yourself this question: are you aggressively working towards the attainment of a respectable goal? If the answer is no, there is an issue. This issue will manifest itself in countless ways, but the bottom line is that you need to make a change.
One thing that has never made sense to me though is the fact that even though guys are depressed and feel like they have nothing going for them, they don’t make a change. When I first started out on my journey, I felt that way too. But you know what I did? I walked out of my parent’s house the morning I turned 18. I didn’t look back. I started making aggressive changes in my life towards building something that I could look back upon and be proud of.
If you are just starting out and looking to develop your lifestyle, just pick one thing and start hammering that out. That can be a business idea. It can be building up your physique or getting stronger. It can be to become better at socializing and carrying yourself like a man. It doesn’t matter what it is at the beginning. A lot of guys don’t get this. They are waiting for the perfect plan to take action on. It isn’t going to happen like that boys. It has never worked out like that for anyone who started from the bottom.
When you start building things to create a better future for yourself, you will quickly realize that the results you attain are not only addicting, but self-propelling. You think you are going to give up on your business once you start seeing money roll in? You think you are going to can the gym membership when you start getting the attraction of females? Obviously not.
Spend every single day of your waking life building. We aren’t necessarily talking about building birdhouses and working on a construction site here. If that gets you going, do it. But really, the point here is that you are creating something of value with every single waking moment of your day. If you are building a business, you are going to be on the phone talking to clients and suppliers. That’s building. You are going to be meeting and interfacing with other entrepreneurial spirits and businessmen. That’s building. You get the point.
Spend your nights on. Winners don’t take days off. They also don’t take nights off either. Want to watch Jerry Seinfeld re-runs? Cool. But don’t go to work the next day and talk about how much you hate your job. You are doing it to yourself buddy. Instead, try learning something at night. Good with computers? There are literally countless opportunities in tech right now that don’t even require a degree. Learn how to code and build applications for businesses (I’m not talking flashy apps for girls to play with on their shiny new Iphones; I am talking business to business web applications that can change the entire online landscape and make millions of dollars a week). That’s literally one angle. There are countless more.
I can promise you one thing though. If you don’t take action now, a year from now you are going to regret it. You will be sitting on your couch, with a job that you don’t like, in a relationship that you don’t like, with friends that don’t respect you, and realize that you could have done something about it. But, you didn’t. So now you get to sit there and think about how that one played out. The best time to plant a tree was 10 years ago. The second best time is right now. Start building.