If you haven’t hear the term before you may be living under a rock. It’s the cliché term that friends and family love to throw at you if they detect you’re having issues with the opposite sex.
I mean, it sounds nice right? All you have to do is “be yourself” and suddenly women will flock to you and beg for your approval. It’s too bad it doesn’t work that way.
Let’s get real here. If you’re boring, why should you expect to be rewarded with companionship? Do you seriously expect for this to play out in your favor?
That type of thinking is just an extension of this culture. We’ve been taught that we’re all winners. That’s a load of garbage by itself and deserving of its own, but you get the point.
If you’re having issues with finding a partner, maybe you should work on yourself. It’s not a bad thing. In fact, most of the guys that get into the “pickup culture” end up at the other side with not only social skills but a whole range of new experiences.
That’s how it started for me. I got interested in working on my social habits, but then realized that people were making a killing online. At that point, I knew I had to work my butt off to build a set of skills that would allow me to do it myself.
What if I had just “been myself?” The answer is very clear. I’d be in the exact same spot I was 3 years ago. Don’t make that mistake.
Start today. Start working on yourself. Start improving. Start giving back.
What you will notice along the way will shock you. You will transform. What you become will completely overshadow the “self” you were told to be like.
Looking to move up in the world? That’s it.